Why I Want Infinity Children

Just after Devorah Leah was born a nurse asked me, “So how many children do you want to have”?

I don’t know what got into me, but I replied, “Infinity!"

It’s not that we haven’t heard of birth control.

Or that we have plans to have 13 or 20 children.

We just don’t think like that.

Our thought process is actually the complete opposite of what some consider standard.

One way of living life is that the default status of marriage is “no children”.

Depending on a “family plan”, a couple might temporarily change the default in order to “have children”.

Maybe one or two, or five or seven.

For us, it’s the opposite.

The default of being married is “yes children”.

And sometimes we have to temporarily change from the default to “no children”.

Our children have been the biggest blessing in our life.

And they have forced us to “operate at a higher level”.

There were times that we had to temporarily “say no” to G-d’s blessings.

But the knowledge that we were “rejecting” G-d’s blessing…

Pushed us to become better people, and figure out how we could become capable of “accepting more blessings”.

Some people make the mistake of having children when they shouldn’t.

And instead of working on themselves.

Raise dysfunctional families.

Others choose to permanently stop having children.

It reduces the pressure.

But it can be an easy way out of challenging the part of themselves that needs to be challenged most.

You know what I mean.

The right approach is to recognize children as the blessing they are.

And if at your current state, you don’t appreciate them as such.

Figure out how to “up your game” so you can.

If you need to take a temporary break, so be it.

But don’t use it as an excuse to not grow.

And stay selfish.

GROW. GROW. GROW.

And when your tolerance for more blessings builds, welcome them with open arms.

Our children have given us a fast track to wisdom.

They give us meaning.

They help us at home and at work.

And we attribute the material blessings in our lives to them.

We’re not embarking on this amazing project to build a beautiful community and campus despite having all these children.

It’s BECAUSE of them.

We are so blessed.

Kein Ayin Horah.